Frustration
sets in!
"One who believes that he has mastered the art of horsemanship has not yet begun to understand the horse."
Author unknown
It's been over a week since my last great
experience with Annabelle, as described in my last post. I really thought I had it under control. I knew what I was doing! She was now going to be the best horse ever
for me! She'd be eating right out of my
hand and doing everything I asked her to do!
I hit the jackpot! All my efforts
were paying off!
Well... not so fast. Reality has slapped me in the face! You see, things haven't gone so smoothly
since that last great day, and despite all the improvements we've made so far,
we seemed to have gone backwards and she started displaying some of those old
bad habits!
I truly believed that if I built trust between us,
got her totally relaxed, and got her the right saddle, she would be such a
pleasure to be around all the time.
Well, just like people, horses can be very complex, with their own set
of experiences, feelings, and ways of responding and thinking.
I thought I knew her, but it seems I'm still trying
to figure her out, and I suppose that time will help with that. Translating her behaviors into what they mean
is a bit like detective work or putting a puzzle together. Sometimes I get the right answer, and other
times I'm clueless. Patience will be my
best friend here.
So, what did she do to make me feel we're going
backwards, all in one week? She's been
fighting me about being saddled and bridled and as usual, about me mounting her. Last Friday was the last straw for me. As I tried to put the saddle on her, she kept moving away from where I was
standing, first all the way to one side, then all the way to the opposite side. Then she tried to nip (or worse, bite?) when
I connected the cinch to the saddle which didn't even touch her. That's when I lost it. I felt the tears well up in my eyes, and I
knew I had to put her back in her stall and go home, or I would just start
yelling at her, or pull hard on her halter, or smack her, all of which I did
not want to do, I don't like doing and I would not be proud of myself if I did. So I did what I felt I should do and left the
scene!
I did a lot of thinking about this over this
weekend. While I consider my riding
skills at probably an intermediate level, my horsemanship skills place me as a
clear novice. I wanted to lease a horse
to practice my riding skills, my seat, my comfort level about being with a
horse, and to find pleasure in the activity, but instead, while we've had many
enjoyable days, I'm faced with a real challenge ahead of me.
I can't forget that we've made some really
good progress, but I often feel that I'm in over my head. When we have those bad days, I keep wishing
for a pleasant, calm horse who is happy to be ridden and who can take things in
stride.
While I feel really discouraged right now, I would
like to look at this situation in a bright light. I should realize that there's always a
learning curve to work through. That for
every step forward we take, sometimes we have to take two backwards. I should see that horses are living,
breathing, feeling animals who also have good days and bad days. I should look at it as a way to learn more
about horses and what makes them tick and as a way to work through problems
with them. I should look at this as an
opportunity to let Annabelle teach me about what works and what doesn't, and I
should really learn how to do things I've never done before, like effective ground
work.
So, tomorrow, I will talk to the barn's
trainer/owner and schedule a lesson with her.
I want her to check Annabelle out, and see if she has any sore or tender
spots throughout her body. I want her to
check out the tack I've been using and make sure it's working for Annabelle,
and I want her to teach me ground work exercises that I can use to improve my
leadership skills.
I would like to give this a month or two, and see
where it goes. If I find that I'm making
progress most of the time, I will continue to lease her and work with her. Hopefully, this is just a setback that Annabelle
and I need to get through in order to actually move closer to an ever stronger
and trustworthy relationship!